Everything BAD I ever learned, I learned from a cousin!
My cousin was 16 and I was 12 and she had to drive me somewhere. She pulled over and stuck a cigarette in my hand and said, “You’re going to smoke this. I am going to smoke a cigarette and if I do you will tell on me, so your going to smoke one too.”
Birds and the Bees and Other Stuff
I knew where babies came from long before my friends at school and then I knew about all the stuff middle schoolers do before they even think about making babies. My older cousins told me about what was happening in junior high. It terrified me as an elementary school kid. It is also probably why I was scared into not even having a boyfriend until 9th grade.
First Encounter With Police Officer
It was the Fourth of July and a different cousin and I were using cigars to light fireworks down a dirt rural road. I found out that night that not only were we too young to smoke even a cigar but fireworks were illegal in Michigan.
I learned to push my car down the driveway so that we didn’t wake up the parents. I also learned to push start a stick shift, which is no easy feat for a 15 year-old and a 16 year-old that weighed less that 100 pounds.
Sneaking Into Bars and Getting Served at 16
This was easy back in 1988. Hair was huge and makeup went on with a putty knife. They couldn’t see how old you were through the layers of on gunk on our faces and shoulder pads definitely make a young girl look older.
Trip to Canada Requires a 24 Hour Alibi
You could drive 50 minutes and all you needed was a drivers license to cross the border. There were no cell phones so you just needed to “sleep over at a friends.”
Blonds Have More Fun (I know better now)
A gallon of pool chlorine dumped on your hair will give you a “sun-kissed” hairstyle for summer.
There is even so many more things like, you can drain a chocolate covered cherry with a toothpick and spit in it and feed it to your babysitter. Want to get even with your sister? Put neon poster board in your house windows that announce when your sister started her period just before her afternoon school bus goes by. Stay out past dark and know you are in trouble? Just toll around in the dirt and smear lightening bugs all over you and tell your mom you were abducted by aliens and that is why you didn’t make it home before the street lights came on. Moms can’t yell if they are laughing.
I have said it a million times, long line of wack-a-moles is where I have derived my lineage.
This all was learned through cousins, (who probably learned a lot of it from my mom who acted like THEIR older cousin..
Your friends are afraid of your parents. Your cousins aren’t, at least mine were not. My mom was passing many of these “gems” onto the cousins that eventually taught me.
This is why we live ten hours away from my own kids cousins.
They are all OUR CHILDREN and Lord knows we were bad, bad, bad.
We heard regularly how bad our mothers were from anyone in town.
I am not telling my kids. They think we come from a long line of book readers and college class takers.
I am breaking the cycle with silence and denial.
These kids all think I am so boring and square. They say things like, “You want some NUTS and then they all giggle like I don’t get it.” They make up songs about drinking beer because it rhymes with Brittany Spears.
Peter confessed and told me a limerick he learned on the bus.
I was so disappointed.
Cannot believe I am saying this but, I would have made my Mom proud. The one he told me was so boring I couldn’t have him walking around teaching other kids this lame rhyme. I gave him a good one to share on the bus the next morning.
Yes, my Mom taught it to me & it has “ding dong” in it. I’ve yet to be called by the school office for any of them…but this one, I thought I might.
Then he asked me who King Kong is. Never mind.
We have cousins in town this week. Three girls and I am in heaven. I know they are all telling each other things they don’t want me to hear and I know they are all learning bad things. I know this because I hear them upstairs after midnight giggling uncontrollably.
I realize I have to let them have a little fun, but we have all been having a LOT OF FUN!
We stayed at a minor league ball game until almost 11 last night. Mitchell caught a ball and then stood at the dugout and had a player sign it and then he gave it to his cousin, Eileen who is in 3rd grade. I was so proud.
Who did they chase down to have their picture taken with? A police officer. Such smart kids! I once convinced an entire Detroit Swat team to let me and a car load of boys go, return our alcohol, (driver was not drinking) and write down directions to the club we were going to, when I was 16. I told them that when I told my dad that they stuck a gun in my face and frisked me he would not be happy. I also told them it would be insane to think that a 16 year-old girl could be stealing cars and taking them into a Detroit alley to be chopped. I mean, really, a helicopter with a spotlight on us?!
See, my kids do not need to hear ANY of these stories!
-Abbie, All that makes you smile, laugh, think, love, cry, and hopefully cry laughing.
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Rustic Recluse says
Got me thinking quite a bit. I learnt it from everywhere! Now who can I push the blame to when I do something bad? 🙁
All that makes you... says
Ha, ha! I always tease that my cousins had no fear of my parents and so therefore… They were also all older than I was so that makes a HUGE difference. I see it with my own kids. My older boys are so sheltered and our youngest thinks he is five years older than he is because he spends his time with his older brothers. I am usually mortified when a boy comes to play with our youngest and that boy is the oldest in his family. I am sure our house has been banned for future play dates after our youngest tells his friends that his dad bought him Chinese stars.
My cousins and I are all like sisters. They just gave me the guts to do things younger.
Rustic Recluse says
That’s probably true. I’m the youngest among my cousins and sister and that makes a big difference to what I do – probably climbing over gates and skipping classes a little earlier than I would’ve if I wasn’t the youngest 😉
Cousins are hilarious, aren’t they?! When my brother used to hang out with our cousin, trouble would follow. Once they sprayed fart spray on another cousin at a crowded mall. It was a smelly ride back to grandma’s house!
All that makes you... says
See, if that cousin was a friend he would have been afraid he wouldn’t get invited over again but nope… Ha, ha! Thanks for sharing and please don’t tell my boys this spray exists.